I and my partner have been together for 12 years, and I feel that surprises are really important in a relationship. Even though we have two children under five years old, that can be extremely demanding, we both still make the effort in our relationship to surprise each other sometimes. So, why is surprising my partner important?
Without surprises in a relationship, things can get very stale very quickly. The last thing you want from your relationship is things to get boring, predictable or worse a stubborn routine. By creating surprises, you are keeping the excitement, and are keeping your partner excited about new experiences with you. Making an effort is really important to keep your love for each other strong.
After being together for a long time, it can be easy to slip into a pattern where neither of you makes much effort. This lack of effort can show itself as not getting gifts for birthdays, not showing love to each other, or even just staying predictable and focussing all of your energy on other things. Whilst every relationship is different, and some people supposedly don’t like surprises, they are still important and can be done in small ways or big ways. Remember a surprise is when the other person is not expecting it, so it is important that you keep it secret.
Surprises for your partner to make them happy
When your out and about, buy them something. This could be their favourite chocolates, necklace, or something that they have spoken about to you in conversation. (buying them something that they have spoken to you about, would be even more special because they will realize that you listen carefully to them and that is an attractive quality.)
If they don’t usually do anything for their birthday, go ahead and plan it. It is their day after all so you should make sure it is something that you will enjoy. You could plan a surprise party for them, inviting all of their friends and family, or you could arrange a special day for them at a theme park, restaurant, etc.
Wake up before them, and give them breakfast in bed. To make it extra special, ensure that it is their favourite breakfast. Common surprise breakfasts include pancakes with melted chocolate, yoghurt, and fruit, warm croissants, sausage and egg muffins with a cup of tea, or eggs Benedict.
Plan a babysitter and book a weekend away. It could be a nearby hotel or it could be a romantic trip to France, or Italy if you want to take it that step further! The moment that you shift your main focus from work to surprising your partner looking for ways to make them happy. You will be shocked at the results. It will make you feel a lot closer, and you may even notice that they start doing it back to you! Who doesn’t love a surprise.
Surprise gifts that your partner will love
1. Promise Garnet Stone Silver Ring
If you and your partner are not yet engaged then you could get them a ‘promise ring’. It’s a sign of loving your partner eternally with the infinity forever symbol. It is a great way that you can show dedication and commitment to your relationship without spending out hundreds of pounds on a ring. Made from 925 sterling silver and cubic zirconia diamonds, it’s not about the price, it’s the thought that counts!
2. Chocolate selection
You can’t go wrong when it comes to chocolate, everyone loves it, and there is so many different chocolate options out there, we recommend the chocolate selection by hotel chocolat because it is a big pack of quality chocolate made to there own chocolate recipe. The chocolate is made with 40% cocoa which allows for a true milk chocolate with flavours including caramel, mousse au chocolat, peanut praline, the brownie and many more.
3. Felt Heart Keyring
This simple glass heart keyring says a lot. Due to being in the shape of a heart, your partner will know that this gift idea came from a place of love. It is a nice gift because it has a purpose: To make their keys look nicer, and to remind them of you. If you have just moved in with your partner then don’t forget to add this to the key.
4. Thuya Wood Heart-Shaped Box
This is one of the most aromatic types of wood as it is harvested from the root of the tree instead of the log itself. I would recommend pairing it with some small wrapped chocolates inside. It makes a great gift as it provides a place for your partner to keep their little trinkets such as jewellery, makeup or other miscellaneous items.
5. Love Birds Sun Catcher
For your bedroom, one bird represents you, and the other represents your partner. Every time you both look at this love birds sun catcher you will both be reminded of your love for each other. Place it by a window and have the sun reflect of it, or hear the subtle chimes move in the wind.
6. Essential Oil Soy Wax Melts
These little heart wax melts smell amazing, to use them simply place one in the top of an oil burner and let it send an aroma around the room. For special occasions, we can gift wrap these for you with a personalised note! Remember, you will need a diffuser to be able to use them.
7. Heart Candle Holder
Pair this cube with a candle and you have the ultimate gift to spread the love. It is the perfect size to fit on any shelf and when paired with a candle it will help keep your love burning strong!
8. Fitbit watch
Maybe your partner has been saying recently how they would like to join the gym to lose weight or perhaps they are beating themselves up about their poor eating habits. Not to worry, the fitbit watch can help.
Not only does the watch make a great gift that can be cherished for years to come but the fitbit has a sleek modern design that looks elegant. At the same time, it can help you reach those health conscious targets. The watch is a personal assistant in helping you reach your goals, and even though the success is from the fitbit, you made it all happen. The fitbit watch is suitable for both men and women.
9. Afternoon tea
Going for afternoon tea as an absolute classic, and with over 465 indulgent afternoon tea experience days to choose from. You can feast on finger sandwiches, tasty scones and sweet treats for two.
This experience day is available at a range of hotels, patisseries and restaurants across the UK. No rush to use it, this voucher is valid for 2 years from the date of purchase with free and unlimited exchange during this time. Makes for a wonderful gift.
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